Tending the chair
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My grandmother kept her grief in a tin box on the highest shelf of the kitchen, and we all learned to look up at it without asking. I am forty-two now, and only this year did I understand what I had been carrying.
I said no to my mother on a Tuesday afternoon, over the phone, about a wedding I did not want to attend. I had practiced the sentence for weeks. It came out smaller than I had expected.
My father died in 2014. I gave the eulogy in two languages. I did not cry. I went back to work on a Monday. The grief found me anyway, ten years late, in the spice aisle of a grocery store in Houston.
I have three voices. The work voice, the family voice, the friend voice. I switch between them so fast I no longer know which one is the original. I am tired in a way that sleep does not fix.
We did not fight. We did not stop being kind. The bedroom just got quiet in a way I did not have language for, and I lived inside the quiet for almost three years before I admitted it to anyone.
I had been the good daughter, the good employee, the good friend, the good wife. I was thirty-six when I noticed, in a parking lot, that I had not asked myself what I wanted in maybe a decade. This is what happened next.
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